I made it through 53 years of my life and this is literally the first time I’ve been truly lonely. Sure I’ve been alone and “doing my own thing” throughout my whole life but never felt lost like this – until it occurred to me what my problem was…
Is Loneliness a Product of Misalignment from Our True Selves?
Yesterday, I worked out a little and tried to shake off the stress of my corporate retail job. I’ve been feeling tired—like, deeply tired—and a bit lonely. Not in the “no one’s around” kind of way, but in that strange space where you’re surrounded by people and still feel isolated.
I did a bit of work for my blog, Allie Rambles, and then decided to lay down for a while while the world outside was still quiet. I needed stillness. And maybe a little escape.
I opened YouTube and landed on a familiar face—Trout and Coffee. I’ve been subscribed to his channel since back when he had maybe 2,000 followers. Now he’s up to over 372,000. And honestly? I’m not surprised. He’s an incredible storyteller. His videos are slow, soft, and usually set in the forest. My kind of cozy.
The thing is, I hadn’t watched him in a long time. My brain’s been in overdrive lately, and his kind of calm takes a certain willingness to slow down. Which, ironically, I haven’t had. And that hit me: when I can’t slow down enough to enjoy the things I once loved, something’s out of alignment. That used to be my whole life—slow, beautiful, connected to nature.
Watching his video yesterday made me feel homesick for that version of me.
Who I Once Was is Not Who I Am Now
There was a time when I lived on the road. Not glamorous, not fancy—but full of little pleasures. Mornings with coffee and the sun rising behind mountain peaks. Long hikes. Evenings by a fire or under the stars. That life gave me a sense of peace I haven’t felt in a while.
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For part of that time, I had someone with me. But even before him, I lived alone—and never felt lonely. I had God, nature, the open road… and myself. That was enough.
Now? I live in a world that’s too fast and too loud. I feel disconnected from the things that used to ground me. And that sense of loneliness creeps in—especially when I forget my purpose.
If you’ve ever searched how to cope with loneliness as a woman, I see you. I’ve Googled it myself. It’s not always about being alone—it’s about feeling disconnected. And I’ve found that one of the most powerful ways to reconnect is by leaning into your purpose.
I actually filmed a YouTube video earlier in the day about loneliness, and I asked my viewers for advice. But hours later, sitting there with my journal and watching Trout and Coffee, I realized I already had the answer.
When I’m living with purpose, I’m not lonely. I might be alone, but I’m not lonely.
What Purpose Means to Me
Purpose, for me, means creating. Writing. Sharing my story. Helping other women—especially those in midlife—realize that life doesn’t end after 50. It begins again, in new ways. It means living close to nature and chasing freedom, however I can. Even if it’s a slow build back to the road I once knew.
I’m not fully there right now, and that’s okay. I’ve been there before, and I believe I’ll get there again. This time with more clarity. This time with intention.
Purpose doesn’t just give you something to do. It fills your soul. It reminds you who you are when the world tries to drown it out.
If you’re wondering how to start coping with loneliness as a woman—especially in midlife—it might help to ask yourself: What’s something I used to love that I’ve let go of? What kind of life do you ache for? What would reconnect you to you?
You don’t need to have it all figured out. But start there. And keep moving toward it, one step at a time.
How About You? How Do Cope with Loneliness?
I’d love to know—what does your version of a slow, beautiful life look like? What’s something you’ve let go of that you want to bring back? Or what purpose keeps you grounded when life feels off?
Drop a comment below or send me a message. I love hearing your stories.
Because you’re not alone in this. And neither am I. 💛
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Hi, I’m Allie—solo traveler, hiker, and midlife reinventor. I share real stories from the road, whether I’m camping beachside in my RV or hiking mountain trails with a heart full of grit and curiosity.
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