These tips worked for me and may just work for you. This is how I took action and beat my Midlife Crisis after struggling for over a decade.
What is a Midlife Crisis?
NOTE : At times I will refer to Midlife Crisis as MLS for short.
Merriam Webster defines a Midlife Crisis as “a period of emotional turmoil in middle age characterized especially by a strong desire for change“. I’d say that about sums it up. But I always like to get many opinions on a matter so you can also read about midlife crisis here or here.
The overarching theme behind the midlife crisis is the feeling of where the hell did my life go and now I need to catch up and get out of this hell.
One can feel dissatisfied with their life, regret the past, and terrified of the future all at once. I talk about my Midlife Crisis in my video How I Realized I Am In a MIDLIFE CRISIS.
But you honestly don’t need to feel this way and can actually look to your middle years as some of the best in your life. At this age you are more knowledgeable than you’ve ever been so can contribute to the world around you in ways you never thought possible.
Also, we may not be on our A-game physically but it’s been proven that you can be still be physically and mentally strong from 45-65 years old.
So let’s get out of that Midlife slump and see our present and futures in a positive light. I’ve gone through each of the following ways to get myself out of the dreaded MLC. Leave a comment below if you’ve beat MLC.
7 Ways I Got Myself Out of a Midlife Crisis
Once I realized I was struggling for over 10 years with what I would now call a midlife crisis I never tended to I did some research on how I could get myself out of this slump and become a stronger me.
Here are my 7 tips to getting out of your midlife crisis.
Watch F*CK MIDLIFE CRISIS : 7 Actionable Tips That Saved My Life
One : Embrace the Suck
It hit me in my late 30s that I was dissatisfied with my life. For almost 20 years I stayed in a stale marriage home with the kids and no career to speak of. Living in the suburbs had become monotonous and most of the women I friended here were dissatisfied as well so when we got together we mostly gossiped, drank and bitched about our lives.
In my late 40s I was divorced and working towards living the life I’d always wanted for myself, as well as my kids. A life they could see mom thrive in. One where I laughed and held my head high.
I worked very hard for that life and in 2020, at 49 years old, that all came true, I began to live in my RV and travel. What I didn’t realize at the time was that I still hadn’t solved for past dissatisfaction, I was only placing a bandage on the wound.
Then he came into my life. The man I believed was the one I’d live with until I die. Yet he only turned out to be a toxic “remedy” I definitely wasn’t looking for.
At 52 I realized I had been running from facing the truth – I needed to gain control of my life and this won’t be easy. I needed to beat this midlife slump.
I embraced the SUCK.
Two : Reconnected with Myself
Admitting to myself that I followed the wrong path for years by embracing the suck, I looked inward to what I needed, as well as wanted, in life.
What had been missing that I needed to work on? What would I love to do for myself now and in the future?
The answers would come to me gradually as I explored who I am and who I want to be to myself and those I love.
Three : Seek Help
I hate asking for help. I would rather suffer through a painful injury or heartache than ask someone to assist me. So when I asked my mom for help it was one of the most difficult things I did in life. But I’m glad I did because we both have grown to get to know each other as adult women.
And living with mom for this time I get my life back together after the breakup and my midlife crisis has allowed me some breathing room to clear my head and make better choices.
I’ve learned that it’s ok to lean on family, friends, professional help and even strangers on the internet.
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Four : Be Kind to Me
Do you even find yourself thinking negative thoughts about yourself? I do. But I now know to stop doing that because all you’re doing is defeating YOU.
Become your new best friend at this time. Tell yourself kind things that you would tell you best friend. And then, like me, you’ll find your spirits lift and you’ll be able to conquer the world. Yes, I’m exaggerating but it will feel this way.
Five : Create Small Goals and Celebrate Small Victories
When I began this journey of getting out of this midlife slump it seemed impossible yet I knew I needed to start.
So that’s what I did – START.
I began small with tasks like drink one less cup of coffee today for my health or everyday do one thing to improve my blog for business. Those little things added up to bigger and bigger accomplishments.
But I didn’t wait to celebrate, I gave myself a pat on the back for the small victories. I needed to be proud of myself during this time for taking steps forward.
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Six : Prioritized My Health and Wellbeing
I won’t claim to be the epitome of health but I did need to start thinking that my health and wellness can only lead to more victories which will lead to a better me and getting out of my Midlife Crisis.
Not wanting to plunge into new things I made activities that I enjoyed already a priority. I began to read at least 20 pages a day of any book I chose because I love reading. Hiking is another thing I love so I made sure it fit into my life. I also work on eating and sleeping better.
Of course I fail everyday at some of these but part of my health and wellness routine is to not worry about it. Simply do better that night or next day or next week.
Book That Helped Me Life Reimagined: The Science, Art, and Opportunity of Midlife
Seven : Embraced New Opportunities
Midlife doesn’t need to be a crisis but if you do find yourself in one don’t forget that at this age we are equipped with amazing brains that will continue to learn until we die, why not take advantage of that and take on new opportunities?
Since I needed to reboot my life at 52 years old and I had the time, I decided to take a Digital Marketing course which has helped me to market my new T-shirt business I started.
I see my life going forward as a series of new opportunities and I’m taking full advantage.
My Complimentary YouTube Video
Be sure to check out my YouTube video below where I go into more detail about getting out of my Midlife Crisis.
F*CK MIDLIFE CRISIS : 7 Actionable Tips That Saved My Life
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